Ultimatums|
Presently, I am in a rather interesting and in my opinion, charming place in my life. It's quiet, yet busy, fulfilling, challenging, incredibly inspiring and full.
I am also alone(not to be mistaken with lonely;) ), solo, by myself and wait for it....single. Did I just say that out loud?!
I come from a family of 5 siblings, three of which are in a relationship with a significant other. I'm quite elated and charmed at the thought that they have found someone to travel on this life journey with them.
Which leads me to ultimatums. My siblings lived very full, fulfilling and adventurous lives before they met their partners. They have jump at the call for a risk and adventure, left the shores of comfort to embrace the gift of traveling the "seas". I applaud their bravery and hope one day to be as courageous as they were/ are.
You might be thinking: "Where are you going with this?"
Having an ultimatum for our future is like walking on a dangerous path. We cannot look at finding a partner, losing ten pounds, or finishing our degree as THE ULTIMATUM. My siblings are a true and stedfast example to me of that exact thing. Their relationship with someone does not complete them. Does it enrich their life? Most definitely. Do they see the world through different eyes? Most likely. Have they changed or compromised who they are ,saying they have found someone, hence they have "finally arrived"? In no way.
I know that in some small way that my family would like me to settle down. They mean well and they would like me to share in that joy. I will choose to take that from them as a kind and loving gesture rather then "burdening" myself with pressure to find someone.
My life is full, enriched and challenging in the best possible sense. And writing this blog post is not to document my "pain of solitude" or unhappiness alone. I'm am writing to celebrate life, my life. Right here, right now.
Definitions are difficult to avoid and escape. But I hope when people remember me, they don't say, "Oh, Annette, the single one." I hope that they can say, "Annette learned how to loved people."
Today is full of newness, adventure and risk. Don't let an ultimatum steal that joy from you. Be brave, courageous and fulfilled.
I am also alone(not to be mistaken with lonely;) ), solo, by myself and wait for it....single. Did I just say that out loud?!
I come from a family of 5 siblings, three of which are in a relationship with a significant other. I'm quite elated and charmed at the thought that they have found someone to travel on this life journey with them.
Which leads me to ultimatums. My siblings lived very full, fulfilling and adventurous lives before they met their partners. They have jump at the call for a risk and adventure, left the shores of comfort to embrace the gift of traveling the "seas". I applaud their bravery and hope one day to be as courageous as they were/ are.
You might be thinking: "Where are you going with this?"
Having an ultimatum for our future is like walking on a dangerous path. We cannot look at finding a partner, losing ten pounds, or finishing our degree as THE ULTIMATUM. My siblings are a true and stedfast example to me of that exact thing. Their relationship with someone does not complete them. Does it enrich their life? Most definitely. Do they see the world through different eyes? Most likely. Have they changed or compromised who they are ,saying they have found someone, hence they have "finally arrived"? In no way.
I know that in some small way that my family would like me to settle down. They mean well and they would like me to share in that joy. I will choose to take that from them as a kind and loving gesture rather then "burdening" myself with pressure to find someone.
My life is full, enriched and challenging in the best possible sense. And writing this blog post is not to document my "pain of solitude" or unhappiness alone. I'm am writing to celebrate life, my life. Right here, right now.
Definitions are difficult to avoid and escape. But I hope when people remember me, they don't say, "Oh, Annette, the single one." I hope that they can say, "Annette learned how to loved people."
Today is full of newness, adventure and risk. Don't let an ultimatum steal that joy from you. Be brave, courageous and fulfilled.
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Annette!! This is wonderful! I love it.
ReplyDeleteAs an almost 28 year old "single girl" I definitely know what it's like to have people comment/question/basically try to steal my joy about being single!
This has definitely been the most enriching year of my life...learning to love Jesus, learning to love people, learning to be okay with being alone, to treasure solace.
Thanks for this post! I'm with you sister! This time in your life is a GOOD GIFT from a GOOD GOD! :)
-Kip